We All Need Help: The Importance of Being Reminded That You’re Okay

Everyone needs to be told that they’re doing alright, that they hold value and that their work and efforts aren’t going unnoticed. It’s only natural to seek such validation; we’re human, after all.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, a concerned parent/partner or even an empathetic boss—someone checking up on you can be revelatory.

Other times, it takes conflict and anger that go unresolved and unexplained to make us realize that things are not alright and we might need some help.

But How do I ask for help?

Putting yourself out there and being vulnerable is one of the hardest things to do, even with people who care about us. It feels embarrassing or as if we’re showing a sign of weakness, when really, it’s anything but. Quite the opposite, it takes a lot of strength to reach out from a dark place.

Whether you’re going through something or are feeling down, remember that you don’t need something bad to happen before you reach out. Just feeling yourself slipping is reason enough.

How do I know if someone else needs help?

There’s no easy answer to this; you have to keep watching out for any signs that raise a red flag. There’s so much that we overlook in the grit of day-to-day work that it gets hard to cope with our own mental, emotional and physical wellbeing, let alone deal with somebody else’s. But it’s important to step up and do your part in the lives of the people around you.

There are a few things you can do to let others, and yourself, know things will be okay:

1)   Reach out

This one’s less obvious than you’d think. It’s difficult to reach out at the right time and allow room and space for the other person to open up. They might resist or refuse, and that’s okay. Don’t push them—even if that someone is you—out of their comfort zone.

2)   Put things into perspective

People need to be reminded that a lot of the things they worry about won’t matter in a few days, weeks, months or years. This can make a massive difference, because it allows them the room to step away from their problem and view it objectively. It’s not easy to put things into perspective without sounding dismissive, which is where people like me come in. Years of talking to crowds as a corporate motivational speaker have taught me to know my audience and what will motivate them.

3)   Reward

What’s a better way to show you care than through a gesture? Go out for a treat, or buy a small, meaningful present, write a letter or a card. If you’re looking for ways to reward your staff, hire a motivational speaker—I’m always ready to entertain and motivate employees!

About the Author:

Steve Rizzo is one of America’s top motivational keynote speakers. Inducted into the Hall of Fame, this former headline comedian knows what it takes to wow a crowd.  Contact him here.