It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.” – Tony Robbins

This video has for parts, each one featured by a different speaker: Stephen Fry, Jim Rohn, Les Brown, and Tony Robbins.

Stephen Fry tells us that “self-pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have.”

“It’s so simple to imagine that things are unfair, and one is under appreciated. And if only you had a chance at this, if only you had a chance at that, things would have gone better. You would be happier if only this. That one is unlucky. All those things. And some of them may well even be true, but to pity oneself as a result of them is to do oneself an enormous disservice.”

Tony Robbins drives out attention to the fact that the reality of the event, and the perception we have of it, are to separate things. We can always change the perception we have of an event if we look for it.

“If you want to change your life, figure out how your worst day was your best day. That will change everything. Because it is if you look for it. If you find the deeper meaning it is. It’s something within you that wouldn’t be there without it.”

Jim Rohn tells us that we should face our fears and that if we don’t like where we are going we should change our destination.

“Here is what you can do, pick a new destination and start going that way. You say, I’ve done this for the last two years I’ll probably have to do it another two. The answer is no, not in a million years. You can change one little degree at a time, or if you want you can revolutionize the all thing.”

Les Browns picks up Tony Robbins idea that we can change the perception of events that occurred to us.

“You can’t change the past, but you can reinterpret how you see it. All of us has experienced some tragedy and if we haven’t we will and you can even let it destroy your life, or you can build upon it. You can permit it to hold you down, or you can decide I’m not going to let that happen to me.”