Everyone needs to be told that they’re doing alright, that they hold value and that their work and efforts aren’t going unnoticed. It’s only natural to seek such validation; we’re human, after all.
matter if it’s a friend, a concerned parent/partner or even an empathetic
boss—someone checking up on you can be revelatory.
it takes conflict and anger that go unresolved and unexplained to make us
realize that things are not alright and we might need some help.
But How do I ask for help?
yourself out there and being vulnerable is one of the hardest things to do,
even with people who care about us. It feels embarrassing or as if we’re
showing a sign of weakness, when really, it’s anything but. Quite the
opposite, it takes a lot of strength to reach out from a dark place.
you’re going through something or are feeling down, remember that you don’t
need something bad to happen before you reach out. Just feeling yourself
slipping is reason enough.
How do I know if someone else
easy answer to this; you have to keep watching out for any signs that raise a
red flag. There’s so much that we overlook in the grit of day-to-day work that
it gets hard to cope with our own mental, emotional and physical wellbeing, let
alone deal with somebody else’s. But it’s important to step up and do your part
in the lives of the people around you.
This one’s less obvious than you’d think. It’s difficult to reach out
at the right time and allow room and space for the other person to open up.
They might resist or refuse, and that’s okay. Don’t push them—even if that
someone is you—out of their comfort zone.
Put things into perspective
People need to be reminded that a lot of the things they worry about
won’t matter in a few days, weeks, months or years. This can make a massive
difference, because it allows them the room to step away from their problem and
view it objectively. It’s not easy to put things into perspective without
sounding dismissive, which is where people like me come in. Years of talking to
crowds as a corporate
motivational speaker have taught me to know my audience and what
will motivate them.
What’s a better way to show you care than through a gesture? Go out for a treat, or buy a small, meaningful present, write a letter or a card. If you’re looking for ways to reward your staff, hire a motivational speaker—I’m always ready to entertain and motivate employees!
About the Author:
Steve Rizzo is one of America’s top motivational keynote speakers. Inducted into
the Hall of Fame, this former headline comedian knows what it takes to wow a
crowd. Contact him here.
Ricardo is Motivational Speakers Daily resident Editor. If it makes you say "OMG! That's awesome!!!" then Ricardo probably wrote it. Despite the subject of his articles Ricardo is surprisingly well adjusted. When he's not writing, he's listening to music, cooking, and playing with his girls.